Why making mistakes is good for your soul! By Sally Baron – Martin
How many of us on a daily basis make mistakes and kick ourselves over it? That would be most of us. Some people make mistakes and move on, and some people make mistakes and torture themselves over it. Whilst some people make mistakes and don’t even notice that they have made one. It doesn’t matter how you handle or deal with them, everyone is different and the main point is that you learn from them.
Making mistakes is one of life’s greatest lessons. Some mistakes are good and will benefit you, whilst some mistakes aren’t so good and will cost you. No matter what type of mistake it is though, you will learn from it and it’ll only make you better in the long run. Unfortunately I am no stranger to making mistakes, but I have started to realise that you will only make the same mistake once.
You will only make the same mistake once
Especially if it’s not for the better and it costs you, whether that be money wise, relationship wise or something else! I am now able to take these mistakes into account and use them to benefit me, especially in my work life. As I used to think people judged me for making mistakes and that made me extremely under confident and have low self-esteem. I remember being in a really important meeting where I felt I had made a huge mistake and couldn’t stop thinking about it.
After approaching the client as I needed to get it off my chest, he informed me that he actually thought it was part of my pitch. He thought I had done it on purpose and he actually really liked it. At that point I realised things aren’t always as bad as you think, and to stop putting myself under so much pressure. If you do make a mistake, just hold your hands up and deal with the situation as best as you can. Always take into account other people that are involved, as your mistake could cost or hurt others!
In my line of work, communication is key
In my line of work, communication is key. However in the past I have put some people to the back of the queue and not prioritised them as much as I should have, and boy did it cost me! I always saw clients at a higher level to candidates. I always felt I needed to prioritise client’s needs over candidates. It was my perception of how to do my job better. A few years ago I hadn’t given someone feedback after an interview, it meant a lot to this candidate and I kept putting it to the side as I was so busy dealing with other things. It was only when I actually spoke to him he was very sharp and short with me. After asking why he felt so annoyed, I realised just what a mistake I had made.
He told me how important that job was to him and every day he was waiting anxiously to hear from me whether it was good or not. He practically had put his life on hold waiting for this feedback, and I had just pushed it to the side not realising how important it was. I apologised profusely and was honest with him, he did appreciate me being honest, but he never forgave me for what I’d done.
Mistakes, big or small, need to be dealt with quickly and relevantly
Three years down the line he was the main decision maker of a major company that I recruited for and my contract got cut. It well and truly came back and bit me on the backside, it took me months just to even speak to him. Luckily he realised his situation was the one that had taught me a major lesson in life and to change the way I looked at things.
Mistakes, big or small, need to be dealt with quickly and relevantly. Hold your hands up when it is needed (people will respect you for it) learn from them, and move on.